O ur mind contains a steady flow of thoughts, which are filled with experiences, memories, images, judgements, expectations and desires. This is the function of our mind. But, often the mind is in a chaotic state of negative and fear based thinking. Negative thinking can start as you immediately get out of bed. You may be waking up in frenzy, with fear based thoughts running at a speed greater than light; or you can wake with calm and peaceful thoughts
You can move through your day obsessing over a past event, or you can be focusing on something positive that is taking place in the moment. You may have negative thoughts as you stand in line at the grocery store, or at the gas station, the gym or when you interact with co-workers, friends or family members. Or you can project your negative thoughts onto others.
Identifying and naming your negative thoughts is the first step to changing. Once you identify them by name you can stop, pause and replace with a positive thought. This will over time erase the habit of thinking or reacting negatively.
There are three common major negative themes that I find most people exhibit in their daily lives that sabotage their goals and personal happiness; see if you recognize any of this self defeating thinking.
Worrying — Distressing over many situations for a long period of time, in almost an obsessive manner.
Waiting for the Shoe to Drop — Looking at a situation and immediately taking it out of perspective and anticipating an extreme misfortune, and anticipating something going wrong.
Judgmental Thinking — Whatever you do it is not good enough, always finding a way to minimize what you have done in a judgmental tone.
I refer to this type of thinking as fretting. Fretting depletes your energy, waste time, and even though it feels like a coping skill, it creates more conflict and takes away your clarity. It is always fear based and creates mental and physical stress.
What you do not understand about yourself will control you. If you let you mind "run you around" you will never achieve your personal and professional goals. No one is withholding happiness, but your negative thinking can keep you from feeling and creating happiness.
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You can move through your day obsessing over a past event, or you can be focusing on something positive that is taking place in the moment. You may have negative thoughts as you stand in line at the grocery store, or at the gas station, the gym or when you interact with co-workers, friends or family members. Or you can project your negative thoughts onto others.
Do you know what you are thinking as you move through your day?
Most people do not know what is going on in their minds, or how often their thoughts are negative and fear based. It often takes someone pointing it out. The mind out of habit becomes conditioned and automatic in its negative reactions. So unless you stop and give attention to your thoughts you may not have a direct experience with what you are thinking, or even notice how negative or judgmental you have been during the day.Identifying and naming your negative thoughts is the first step to changing. Once you identify them by name you can stop, pause and replace with a positive thought. This will over time erase the habit of thinking or reacting negatively.
There are three common major negative themes that I find most people exhibit in their daily lives that sabotage their goals and personal happiness; see if you recognize any of this self defeating thinking.
Worrying — Distressing over many situations for a long period of time, in almost an obsessive manner.
Waiting for the Shoe to Drop — Looking at a situation and immediately taking it out of perspective and anticipating an extreme misfortune, and anticipating something going wrong.
Judgmental Thinking — Whatever you do it is not good enough, always finding a way to minimize what you have done in a judgmental tone.
I refer to this type of thinking as fretting. Fretting depletes your energy, waste time, and even though it feels like a coping skill, it creates more conflict and takes away your clarity. It is always fear based and creates mental and physical stress.
What you do not understand about yourself will control you. If you let you mind "run you around" you will never achieve your personal and professional goals. No one is withholding happiness, but your negative thinking can keep you from feeling and creating happiness.
Contact Michele